“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive” ― Howard Thurman.
– Manifesto –
- You are here for a reason. I believe every single one of us has a calling; to some it’s loud and clear and they know what they’re meant to do, but many others aren’t so sure and get stuck trying to figure out the perfect solution. The real work is learning to listen and being brave enough to answer the call – even if that call is nothing more than a faint whisper. Then you must show up and do what’s required, even if it doesn’t always make sense at the time.
- You can always rewrite your story. By that I mean that no matter who you are, what you’ve done or what’s happened to you in the past, you can always write a new story for yourself. You are allowed to change. Also, the stories we tell ourselves are frequently negative and holding us back and sometimes we’re not even aware of how badly we speak to ourselves. You have the power to rewrite those stories that run through your head, to create a positive dialogue that you can repeat for as long as it takes for to believe in yourself. A better story that you can reinforce with actions that take you closer to your dreams.
- You do not need to hit rock bottom. We have this idea that something needs to be completely broken before we can fix it, or that our discomfort must be so intense that it gives us a valid reason to change. None of this is true. If there’s something holding you back from living the life you really want – no matter what it is – then start by being honest and acknowledging it. You don’t need to hit rock bottom before you begin making changes in your life.
- Everything you feel is right for you. Stop saying you ‘should’ or ‘shouldn’t’ feel a particular way. Acknowledging and learning how to really feel your feelings allows you to tune into yourself and get to the heart of what really matters to you. I’m a big fan of Elizabeth Gilbert’s writing – that’s not to say I agree with everything she writes – but this post called ‘The Wrong Emotion’ is definitely one of my favourites.
- Stop trying to reduce yourself to a label. We’re women, wives, mothers, daughters, sisters, creators, doers, homemakers, shakers and so much more. Why the need to wrap yourself up so nicely into a tidy description? You’re not meant to be just one thing, you’re meant to be so much more. You can be an intrepid adventurer who loves braving the elements whilst also being a mother who loves floral dresses and throwing dinner parties. Don’t bend to the pressure of stereotypes, do not let other people keep you quiet and small.
- You only ever need permission from yourself. You could wait for years, decades even, for someone to come along and give you permission to do the things you really want to do with your life. You could wait for someone to tell you that you’re smart enough and not too old or that it doesn’t matter what you look like or what you weigh and that yes, you really do deserve to be happy. Well, that person is you. You only ever need permission from yourself. You are the one you’ve been waiting for.
- You don’t need to do this alone. If you want to explore your calling or you’re ready to change your story, it can be difficult to know how or even where to begin. Maybe you’re afraid of going in the wrong direction or worried you’ll make a mistake or you’re concerned that others will think you’re being selfish. I’m going to be writing articles, suggesting books to read and providing free resources over the next few months to help you with this. I’m also going to be offering a new coaching programme so that we can journey together for a while – should you want to. Together we’ll explore the experiences that form your story and help you cultivate a deep belief that the world needs what you have to offer. You’ll discover what your heart is asking you to pay attention to. You’ll become the author of your own story.