“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive” ― Howard Thurman.
– Guiding Principles –
- You are here for a reason. I believe every single one of us has a calling and it’s not necessarily just one thing. But far too often we’ve forgotten what makes us come alive and how to follow the clues leading us to the things we’re meant to do. Too often we’re looking for a ‘perfect’ answer and there is no such thing. The real work is learning how to listen and being brave enough to answer the call – even if it’s nothing more than a faint whisper. Then you must show up and do what’s required, even if it doesn’t always make sense at the time.
- You only ever need permission from yourself. You could wait for years, decades even, for someone to come along and give you permission to do the things you really want to do with your life. You could wait for someone to tell you that you’re smart enough and not too old or that it doesn’t matter what you look like or what you weigh and that yes, you really do deserve to be happy. Well, that person is you. You only ever need permission from yourself. You are the one you’ve been waiting for.
- Everything you feel is right for you. Stop saying you ‘should’ or ‘shouldn’t’ feel a particular way. Acknowledging and learning how to really feel your feelings allows you to tune into yourself and get to the heart of what really matters to you. I’m a big fan of Elizabeth Gilbert’s writing – that’s not to say I agree with everything she writes – but this post called ‘The Wrong Emotion’ is definitely one of my favourites.
- You do not need to hit rock bottom. We have this idea that something needs to be completely broken before we can fix it, or that our discomfort must be intense before we have a valid reason to change. None of this is true. If there’s something holding you back from living the life you really want, then start by being honest and acknowledging it. You don’t need to hit rock bottom or feel intense discomfort to have a valid reason to change your life.
- You can always rewrite your story. By that I mean that no matter who you are, what you’ve done or what’s happened to you in the past, you can always write a new story for yourself. You are allowed to change. Which leads me to…
- Stop trying to reduce yourself to a label. Why the desire to wrap yourself up so nicely into a tidy description? You’re not meant to be just one thing, you’re meant to be so much more. Oh, I know, you’re judged by how you spend the majority of your time and the various roles you play in life, but you don’t need to bend to the pressure of stereotypes. They’re there to keep you quiet and small and there’s no one right way to be or to live – and when you embrace that thought – you’ll finally feel free. And finally…
- You don’t need to do this alone. If you want to explore your calling or you’re ready to change your story, it can be difficult to know how or even where to begin. Maybe you’re afraid of going in the wrong direction or worried you’ll make a mistake or you’re concerned that others will think you’re being selfish. The best thing to do is seek support and be willing to ask for help – asking for help is not a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of strength. I’m also committed to writing practical articles, pulling together resources and writing personal essays in the hope that you find them helpful. I want to help you discover what your heart is asking you to pay attention to so that you become the author of your own story.
This space is from my heart to yours…